The Gentle Counsellor Podcast

Becoming the Parent You Needed: How Childhood Attachment Shapes Adulthood

Ever notice how the same patterns keep showing up in your relationships even when you wish to do things differently from your parents? This podcast episodes discusses

• How attachment styles are formed and passed down through generations

• The mind-body connection and nervous system for why regulation matters

• Navigating rupture & repair and moving toward earned secure attachment

• The grief of realising what you didn’t receive as a child and why that sadness is valid

• Re‑parenting your younger parts 

• "Good enough" parenting

• Why healing isn’t linear … it’s a spiral that brings you deeper (and wiser) each time

Whether you’re a parent, partner, or cycle‑breaker ready to reclaim your story, this episode will leave you feeling seen, soothed, and supported.

 

Take the Next Gentle Step

1. Book a counselling session with me (individuals & couples) → secure your spot online now https://thegentlecounsellor.com/counselling-services

2. Dive into the self‑paced online course “Understanding Your Attachment Style.”

3. Browse Books I Recommend for deeper learning.

4. Share empowerment with little ones through my children’s book “My Body, My Feelings.”

Feeling Touched-Out in Motherhood – Why It Happens & What Needs to Change

Ever felt like if one more person touches you, you might just explode? That’s being touched out—but it’s not just about exhaustion. It’s the crushing weight of constant physical contact, relentless mental load, and a world that refuses to support mothers.

In this episode, we dive into:

• Why mothers experience sensory and emotional overload.
• The unequal distribution of household and parenting labour.
• How the lack of real community support leaves mothers drowning.
• Why self-care isn’t the solution to systemic neglect—and what actually needs to change.

Motherhood shouldn’t mean sacrificing your body, mind, and autonomy. Let’s talk about how to demand better, set boundaries, and create real support systems.

Have you ever felt touched out? What helped you?

Read my Blog post https://thegentlecounsellor.com/touched-out-motherhood/ 

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Myths and Misconceptions About Attachment Styles

Are attachment styles set in stone? Do you have to be a perfect parent to raise a securely attached child? In this episode, we’re breaking down the biggest misconceptions about attachment theory and what people often get wrong. We’ll explore why attachment is fluid and can change over time, how avoidant attachment isn’t about not needing people but rather a learned response to emotional neglect, and why anxious attachment isn’t just “needy” but rooted in a deep fear of abandonment. We’ll also dive into how healing happens, from co-regulation and self-regulation strategies to therapy tools that help move toward earned secure attachment. Whether you’ve struggled with anxious, avoidant, or disorganised attachment, this episode offers practical insights and actionable steps to support your journey toward deeper, healthier connections.

Read my Blogs on Attachment Theory https://thegentlecounsellor.com/category/attachment-theory/

Book online Counselling with me https://thegentlecounsellor.com/counselling-services/

eBook: 'Attachment Theory: A Simple Guide for Parents' https://thegentlecounsellor.com/product/attachment-theory-a-simple-guide-for-parents/

Course: 'Understanding Your Attachment Style' https://thegentlecounsellor.com/product/course-understanding-your-attachment-style/

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I’m Back – A Raw Conversation About Burnout, Miscarriages, and Getting Real

It’s been a while since I’ve shown up here, and today, I’m coming back to chat with you - unfiltered and real. Life has been a whirlwind, and in this first episode I’m sharing my journey through burnout and multiple miscarriages. This wasn’t a planned break from social media, but it became necessary as I found myself overwhelmed by the pressure to keep creating and the negativity that came with it.

In this episode, I get real about the grief and healing process after 9 miscarriages, what it’s been like navigating that pain while already having two children, and how it’s changed the way I show up for others who are going through similar struggles. I also talk about the importance of authenticity, even when it feels uncomfortable, and how social media has both exposed us to trauma and forced us to confront the harsh realities of the world we live in.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, unsure of how to show up for yourself, or struggled with the pressures of having it all together, well this episode is for you. I’m leaning into vulnerability and embracing the messiness of life. Join me as I share what I’ve learned along the way and how I’m navigating these big emotions.

Thank you for being here and listening to my story. It’s not always easy, but it feels important to show up as myself; imperfect, authentic, and ready to connect. Let’s get into it. 💛

Oh and BTW we're back to The Gentle Counsellor Podcast. 

S2 Episode 16: Acknowledging the Sh*t-Show: The Power of Collective Motherhood Experience with Gemma @postpartumlikeaboss

Join Gemma, a Perinatal Counsellor, and me as we talk about discovering the empowering journey of motherhood beyond the picture-perfect façade. We explore the real challenges, how to seek professional support, the importance of connecting authentically with fellow mums, and how to navigate the dynamics of social media. Embrace the 'sh*t-show' moments and find strength in the collective experience of motherhood.

Gemma's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/postpartumlikeaboss/

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S2 Episode 15: Parenting From a Place of Fear with Danica @littlebloom.consultancy

Read the Blog Post 'Parenting From a Place of Fear'

Are you a parent who struggles with fear and uncertainty? My latest podcast episode with Danica from Little Bloom explores the different ways fear can show up when parenting. From feeling judged by others to worrying about the future, we talk about what helped us overcome our fears and create a more supportive environment for our children. Tune in now and let's learn to parent from a place of love, not fear.

 

Danica is an Education Mentor & Consultant specialising in Children’s Behaviour. She helps educators and parents transform how they support children’s behaviour and emotional development (0-7 yrs).

 

Website - https://www.littlebloomconsultancy.com.au/ 

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/littlebloom.consultancy

 

 

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S2 Episode 14: Finding Your Calling During Early Postpartum with Sami from The Hold Doula

Read the Blog Post 'Finding Your Calling During Early Postpartum'

Sami is a preconception, pregnancy and postpartum Doula living, working and mothering on Turrbal country in Brisbane's North West. She is passionate about providing continuity of connection to mothers, women and birthing folk in both an in-home and online capacity. Her professional and educational history centres on public health, social justice and diverse communities. She is a mother to a 15-month-old boy, which is her greatest calling.

 

Website - www.theholddoulaco.com

Instagram - @theholddoulaco

 

 

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S2 Episode 13: Motherhood and Insomnia, Allison shares her story.

Read the Blog Post: 'Postpartum Insomnia: Causes, Warning Signs, and Effective Solutions for New Mothers'

 

Allison shares her experience of motherhood and insomnia, and how she found sleep again. She is a 39-year-old mother of a two-year-old and a four-week-old and works as a clinical pharmacist.

 

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S2 Episode 12: Emotional regulation and why it’s more difficult for some children to regulate with Yvette Knights @movelearnconnect

Read the Blog Post: 'Why Emotional Regulation Can be Challenging for Some Children Despite Gentle Parenting: Tips and Strategies for Parents'

Yvette Knights works with families who have children with a range of delays in their foundational skills. These delays impact their behaviour and attention, social skills, emotional regulation, motor skills, balance and neurological readiness for learning. She is a neuro developmental therapist and has a degree in early childhood education. This means she has good knowledge about how we grow and develop and how our development impacts our brain and its development. Yvette uses this information to fill in any gaps in our brain's development helping people to overcome many challenges they are facing.

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S2 Episode 11: Common Struggles As Parents Who Are Cycle Breakers

Common struggles for parents, childhood experiences and family dynamics, insecure avoidant and anxious attachment styles, and effective communication.

 

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